Aww, it’s good to be back home! So, ladies, so you have found your Mr. Wonderful! Tall, dark, handsome, with bow legs, a great sense of humor, a great job and an enormous 401K. The only problem is, your Mr. Wonderful refuses to commit. “Baby, you know that it has nothing to do with you right?” he asks. “I mean, you’re a great girl and all: sexy, smart, cute, any man’s dream woman. It’s just that right now I know that I am not ready for a relationship,” he continues to say. Listening to him reminds of you a broken record, doesn’t it ladies? We’ve all heard this tune before. The only question is, why did he refuse to say this at the very offset of the relationship? Why not before you made wild passionate love beneath the stars, by the fireplace, or with the sand and waves crashing on the beach, in wonderful majestic love-filled nights? Why wait until you have become emotionally involved, discussing work, family conflicts and dreams of the future? At the end of the day, the blame lays squarely on your shoulders, as you did not apply due diligence, and wholeheartedly with lovestruck eyes, jumped into a situation before instilling some of the golden rules of dating. One such rule is to: never become intimate with a man until you have both agreed upon the definite parameters of the relationship. Your job, at the very beginning of every relationship, is to ask direct, focused questions by enquiring about your new man’s expectations and whether he is ready for a relationship. Your goal is to discover your role in his life, as he sees it. ‘What do you want from me, my brother?’, should be sewn on as many t-shirts as you can possible find. As difficult as these questions may be, they are necessary, as these questions will give you a bird’s eye view on the man that is in front of you. Sure, it’s not all about what he wants, but by listening keenly to his answers, you will be able to make a clear, concise decision on whether you want to have a continued relationship with this man: and in what capacity. Will he then be shafted to the ‘he’s just a friend’ zone, or will you continue to see him as a ‘friend with benefits?’: depending on how amazing his lovemaking is of course. At the end of the day, the choice is yours. My own personal choice? Being an all or nothing type of lady, he would be banished to the ‘you are not allowed to say anything out of the ordinary to me’. In other words, no sexual innuendos, jokes, flirtations, or suggestions. His confusing behaviour is not my burden to carry and he needs to work on that: on his own. Of course, there would be no hatred towards him, as I wholeheartedly believe that there is someone amazingly wonderful out there in the universe for me: unfortunately, our stars have not yet connected. In the interim, I refuse to be his ‘in between woman’, while he figures out his life. Your Mr. Wonderful should not be allowed to receive the sweetness of your fruit, if he himself has nothing to offer. It’s like to going to the grocery store, filling up a cart with groceries and then going to the cash register with no money in hand: nothing but a big grin on your face. You are not his ‘Stop and Shop’! If he has nothing to offer emotionally, then his loving should be regulated to a bottle of baby oil, mood lights and a steamy video or magazine of his choice!
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
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Monday, August 31, 2009
Women:Date, Date and then Date Some More!
WOMEN: DATE, DATE AND THEN DATE SOME MORE
But Save the Cherry Pie for Mr. Right!
It is often been said that women, “Men date and women have relationships.” Often times when a woman finds herself in an intimate relationship with a man she immediately considers that to be a new relationship. Not so fast for the fellas however! Have you ever seen an episode of the Maury Povich show as he proudly and shamefully declares, “You are not the father?” To which the young lady usually runs off the stage, hits the dust and wails like a wounded animal in the woods.
Do these ladies not understand that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” as author John Gray wrote in his widely popular book? A man will date you, your friend and your mother before he decides in his mind that you are, “the one.” Women, however fall head over heels in love, pregnant in their minds with your baby, and building the big house with the white picket fence the second that they get a taste of, “de big wad between a man’s legs.”
Women need to open up their horizons, wade through their choices and then with a clear mind, decide who their partner should be. Easily said than done of course as the second a woman is observed as dating a, “a few good men,” she is labeled as a slut or a whore. No one to take home to your mama!
Dating more than one man at a time allows you to choose from the crop, and choose the one best suited for you. As my mother always says,” Give a man a man a likkle piece of rope to play with, tie de noose tight but don’t choke him. If he sinks to the bottom he is probably not good for you. If however, he rises to the top above de rest, like a pudding ina de oven, he is yours to keep! My mother bwoy! The things I heard while growing up!
A man that knows that you are seeing another man should be envious of the time spent with others. As your objective here is to be, “the one and only,” and really find your true love, you should not settle for anything less. Too often women will fall for the old, “I am just seeing where this is going,” statement from a man. No! He should know what his true intentions are from the beginning, as you are of yours. Wasting your time and his is not allowed.
However ladies, really do go out with others if you say that you are. Leave the girlfriends alone for a few nights and truly go out with, “the hot guy from down the street.” Who knows where it might lead? If your knight in shining amour sees you with the buffed bodied man from the gym, and his feelings are true, he will know what to do.
He will rise to cream of the crop and make you his. Women should also learn to have fun while dating, just as much as the guys do. However, the ultimate prize, the big cherry on top, the big kahuna, should be kept for the one who rises to the top, or at least the ones who almost made the pudding pie shape.
Women should view their bodies as temples of God, something to be cherished, a prized possession for very few to see and behold. Trust me, when him get a “likkle piece,” as they say, your prince will be more than appreciative of the sweet, rarely abused gift you have given to him!
But Save the Cherry Pie for Mr. Right!
It is often been said that women, “Men date and women have relationships.” Often times when a woman finds herself in an intimate relationship with a man she immediately considers that to be a new relationship. Not so fast for the fellas however! Have you ever seen an episode of the Maury Povich show as he proudly and shamefully declares, “You are not the father?” To which the young lady usually runs off the stage, hits the dust and wails like a wounded animal in the woods.
Do these ladies not understand that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” as author John Gray wrote in his widely popular book? A man will date you, your friend and your mother before he decides in his mind that you are, “the one.” Women, however fall head over heels in love, pregnant in their minds with your baby, and building the big house with the white picket fence the second that they get a taste of, “de big wad between a man’s legs.”
Women need to open up their horizons, wade through their choices and then with a clear mind, decide who their partner should be. Easily said than done of course as the second a woman is observed as dating a, “a few good men,” she is labeled as a slut or a whore. No one to take home to your mama!
Dating more than one man at a time allows you to choose from the crop, and choose the one best suited for you. As my mother always says,” Give a man a man a likkle piece of rope to play with, tie de noose tight but don’t choke him. If he sinks to the bottom he is probably not good for you. If however, he rises to the top above de rest, like a pudding ina de oven, he is yours to keep! My mother bwoy! The things I heard while growing up!
A man that knows that you are seeing another man should be envious of the time spent with others. As your objective here is to be, “the one and only,” and really find your true love, you should not settle for anything less. Too often women will fall for the old, “I am just seeing where this is going,” statement from a man. No! He should know what his true intentions are from the beginning, as you are of yours. Wasting your time and his is not allowed.
However ladies, really do go out with others if you say that you are. Leave the girlfriends alone for a few nights and truly go out with, “the hot guy from down the street.” Who knows where it might lead? If your knight in shining amour sees you with the buffed bodied man from the gym, and his feelings are true, he will know what to do.
He will rise to cream of the crop and make you his. Women should also learn to have fun while dating, just as much as the guys do. However, the ultimate prize, the big cherry on top, the big kahuna, should be kept for the one who rises to the top, or at least the ones who almost made the pudding pie shape.
Women should view their bodies as temples of God, something to be cherished, a prized possession for very few to see and behold. Trust me, when him get a “likkle piece,” as they say, your prince will be more than appreciative of the sweet, rarely abused gift you have given to him!
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Where is my chocolate and flowers?
I am a 40 year old, single woman, who has not had a good relationship in five years and has no solid prospect in sight.
As Valentine's Day went by and the ads bombarded my everyday life like a truck coming at you with no brakes on, it hit me once again at the sad state of my love life.
Don't get me wrong, I am not upset because I am alone, I am more disheartened by the fact that I have no one to love. I long to cook, clean, take care of others and as this Valentine's day past and with no Valentine, again, I am left feeling like I have no purpose. Nothing brings me more pleasure than making others happy. Seeing my children's faces if I do something nice or my man's reaction when I rub his feet or when I put on that sexy lingerie makes my day. Which brings me to ask, "Was Valentines Day created to the barometer test of your true worth as a Woman? If as a woman, you are alone on Valentine's Day, with no loved one beside you, have you failed as a woman?
Sure, I have had some successful relationships in the past where on Valentines Day I was worshipped and adorned with gifts and words of love and great intimacy, but over the past few years I have been alone on Valentine's Day. This year is no different and for some reason it is hitting me harder at the thought of being alone. I am not too sure what to attribute this to, maybe the loss of a potential love that I was so hopeful for over the past few months or it may be the fact that I am 40 years old with no solid prospect in sight.
Many women that I know of, happily celebrating this day, supposedly in love, I know are living a life of lies and are not really happy. Yet they continue to play out the facade as if they are, happily running to the store to get gifts for their loved ones.
I see a lot of women,misguided and confused,running around on Valentines Day, rushing for chocolate, making that special dinner, buying the sexy lingerie and still knowing that they are not being loved the way how they should be by their men. You will see them in the stores, hitting you over the head for the last box of chocolate, fighting for that red lingerie at Victoria Secret, buying the crotch less underwear, picking out the wine, forever living the lie, pretending that they are in a great relationship.
Believe me, this is not the jealous ranting of a woman with no man. I would rather be alone on Valentines Day, pride intact, than to be with a man that is not treating me properly. " I just don't want to be alone on Valentine's Day,” says another friend of mine. "It seems unnatural." Although I understand her point of view because women are natural caregivers and love to take care of others, what is so wrong with being alone on this day? Maybe I am a little bit harsher than a lot of my friends and tough to handle, but I still think that the love that I have for myself outweighs the love for any man that I will ever have.
So to conclude, I do not think that I have failed as a woman because I have no special Valentine, (again), this year. I see it as the glass half full. In other words, my love is so important to me and should be also to the man that is on the receiving end that I continue to be choosy as to whom I should bestow my love to. As women, we should see ourselves as being so invaluable, so precious that the approaching Valentine's day should not be a gage stick as to our worth as women, but rather an affirmation of our unbelievable gift as women to be the rock of our families.
In my opinion, if as this Valentine's Day approaches and you are running around the stores like a mad woman, knowing that you are living a lie, the only person who really loses is you as your self esteem takes another beating because of what you are accepting in your love relationship. I am not trying to discourage you from putting on that special lingerie, or buying the wine. However, what I am encouraging is that on this special day, remember who you are, accept nothing but the best for yourself and your family. You should demand honesty and loyalty from your man because without that, Valentine's Day is just a joke. Your man should treat you as a gem, invaluable to him, the center of his world and you should feel as such. If not, you are both just playing games, being used as pawns on Valentine's Day to boost business sales.
As Valentine's Day went by and the ads bombarded my everyday life like a truck coming at you with no brakes on, it hit me once again at the sad state of my love life.
Don't get me wrong, I am not upset because I am alone, I am more disheartened by the fact that I have no one to love. I long to cook, clean, take care of others and as this Valentine's day past and with no Valentine, again, I am left feeling like I have no purpose. Nothing brings me more pleasure than making others happy. Seeing my children's faces if I do something nice or my man's reaction when I rub his feet or when I put on that sexy lingerie makes my day. Which brings me to ask, "Was Valentines Day created to the barometer test of your true worth as a Woman? If as a woman, you are alone on Valentine's Day, with no loved one beside you, have you failed as a woman?
Sure, I have had some successful relationships in the past where on Valentines Day I was worshipped and adorned with gifts and words of love and great intimacy, but over the past few years I have been alone on Valentine's Day. This year is no different and for some reason it is hitting me harder at the thought of being alone. I am not too sure what to attribute this to, maybe the loss of a potential love that I was so hopeful for over the past few months or it may be the fact that I am 40 years old with no solid prospect in sight.
Many women that I know of, happily celebrating this day, supposedly in love, I know are living a life of lies and are not really happy. Yet they continue to play out the facade as if they are, happily running to the store to get gifts for their loved ones.
I see a lot of women,misguided and confused,running around on Valentines Day, rushing for chocolate, making that special dinner, buying the sexy lingerie and still knowing that they are not being loved the way how they should be by their men. You will see them in the stores, hitting you over the head for the last box of chocolate, fighting for that red lingerie at Victoria Secret, buying the crotch less underwear, picking out the wine, forever living the lie, pretending that they are in a great relationship.
Believe me, this is not the jealous ranting of a woman with no man. I would rather be alone on Valentines Day, pride intact, than to be with a man that is not treating me properly. " I just don't want to be alone on Valentine's Day,” says another friend of mine. "It seems unnatural." Although I understand her point of view because women are natural caregivers and love to take care of others, what is so wrong with being alone on this day? Maybe I am a little bit harsher than a lot of my friends and tough to handle, but I still think that the love that I have for myself outweighs the love for any man that I will ever have.
So to conclude, I do not think that I have failed as a woman because I have no special Valentine, (again), this year. I see it as the glass half full. In other words, my love is so important to me and should be also to the man that is on the receiving end that I continue to be choosy as to whom I should bestow my love to. As women, we should see ourselves as being so invaluable, so precious that the approaching Valentine's day should not be a gage stick as to our worth as women, but rather an affirmation of our unbelievable gift as women to be the rock of our families.
In my opinion, if as this Valentine's Day approaches and you are running around the stores like a mad woman, knowing that you are living a lie, the only person who really loses is you as your self esteem takes another beating because of what you are accepting in your love relationship. I am not trying to discourage you from putting on that special lingerie, or buying the wine. However, what I am encouraging is that on this special day, remember who you are, accept nothing but the best for yourself and your family. You should demand honesty and loyalty from your man because without that, Valentine's Day is just a joke. Your man should treat you as a gem, invaluable to him, the center of his world and you should feel as such. If not, you are both just playing games, being used as pawns on Valentine's Day to boost business sales.
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