keep Your Bedroom Business Private

Keep your bedroom business private! When it comes to love, nothing is off limits, except your relationship itself. Love requires time, patience, honesty and also privacy. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than rumors, hear-says and as we say in Jamaica, “Carry go bring come!” The demise of that perhaps once “beautiful, might be the relationship of my life” situation, will weigh heavily on your heart, as you instantly recognize that gossip and of course your over-zealousness all contributed to the destruction of your relationship. Should you then not tell anyone if you are dating someone? Hide it from everyone but your immediate family? Make mention of it only if and when you are walking down the aisle? Maybe you need to, in order to keep your relationship intact! Most people would say “whatever happens between a man and a woman is their business”, and I tend to agree. There have been so many situations, even recent ones I might add, where my significant other, (S.K.), and I have experienced some bumpy roads in our relationship. Negative talk and destructive rumors nearly killed our beautiful union. It of course has led to miscommunication, vexation and caused a definite rift between the two of us. The rumors swirling around about my dating life and the mystic about S.K., has allowed the rumor mill to run amok. “But Sandy, you don’t know that you are a sort of celebrity figure now of sorts and everything that you do, people will want to know about it?” a friend of mine said to me recently. “I think that you are living underneath a rock if you can’t see that,” he went on to say. “Figure or no figure, I just want my relationship to be kept private,” I answered. “Not bloody likely,” my friend replied. However, once all the hoopla and pomp and circumstance were done with, and we actually sat down and spent time alone together, all the negative feelings went through the window. No longer did we have unresolved issues between us, unsolved and left to fester some more. The strain of the last few weeks seemed ridiculous and un-necessary, once we were able to just concentrate on us and not the outside world. Fortunately, what I learnt from this situation is that when given an opportunity to just relate to each other, with no one else interfering in their love life, a man and a woman might have a chance at creating a beautiful relationship. Without the negativity, the jealousness, the over-zealous on-lookers making statements behind our backs, we seemingly have a shot of making this relationship work. Hopefully we will not be included in the statistics, put out recently by randomhistory.com, that suggests that most couples breakup around three to five months of dating. This statistic of course does not make it a done deal for me as to how long this relationship will last, but it does work as a guide of sorts for us, as we attempt to form a long, lasting relationship. The wonderful feeling of knowing that your partner wants to be there with you of course is an amazing feeling and many say that this should be enough, but of course this is not so. Relationships are tough, difficult to maintain and anything that you have to do to ensure the success of that union, minus killing anyone or course, should be done. Privacy, I believe should be number one in a relationship, as this gives you the opportunity to really unite with one person on an emotional level. As difficult as this may seem, even for Sandy Daley, this will be done. At the end of the day, when I and S.K. are alone together, with no one else but us to think about, I see the potential, as you will too when you make your situation a priority, and no one else’s business but your own.